Tuesday, September 30, 2014

A new life

So today a new little person came into the world.  My sister had her baby this morning.  Ayden arrived before noon, tipping the scales at 10lbs 5oz.  His face was all bruised up but he seemed to be a healthy little piggy!  I haven't gone to see him yet due to coming home and passing out after walking up so early this morning in prep of everything.

The idea of babies really messed with me today as I talked about it today at work.  It kind of reminded me how much I wanted to be a mom and how that will be something that may not happen for a while, considering I don't have a partner and the fact that my uterus is only 11 weeks post-op.  It's weird because part of me believes that I may never be a mom and may just live a life where I may just be happy and fulfilled as an amazing aunt.

Just another perspective that was on my mind...

Monday, September 29, 2014

Filled with Emotions

One of the best things about my job is forging relationships with people I may have never met in my regular life.  Though I have my own clients when I work, one of the biggest privileges I have had is getting to know the women in Brigid's Hope.  During the spring, I took the opportunity to get to know them as we trained side by side for a 5K race.

As I have attended the last few graduations for these women, these events have had more meaning as I know each person on a more personal basis.  It's an overwhelming amount of emotion as I see these women accomplish so much in the year that they are in the program and know that in a small way, my presence in their life left a small impact.  On the flip side, hearing their stories remind me WHY I do what I do.  They inspire me to work hard to achieve more and do better and continue to strive to make an impact, no matter how big or small.

On the other hand, I saw him tonight.  He has become the unofficial photographer for the program.  We spoke for a little bit after the event and it was nice but at the same time, difficult.  I think if anything, the most difficult thing was hearing that he had cancelled events with me due to what his therapist said.   It was a little bit heartbreaking to think that he continues to make decisions at the advisement of others and possibly not on what he may want to do.  Sometimes I wonder if this individual's opinions are just supporting his own thought or he takes it as the way to go and accept it as is.  Part of me believes its the latter but am hurt if that's the case.  I know for me, when my therapist suggested negative feedback on my relationship, I had a difficult time accepting it.  I wonder how he would have felt if I had accepted her opinion and gone with it.

Sometimes having the shoe on the other foot makes things hurt, more than you know.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Pain

I still feel it...radiating in my body.  Sometimes on my left, sometimes on my right.  Right now as I type, I feel it in my lower right side, just pulsing.  It's not the pain where I am doubled over but it is an uncomfortable pain that I would not like to have present for long periods of time.

I don't know why but I hope it stops.  It's been over a week where I've been feeling this.  Let's hope sooner than later...

Waking up

I woke up quite un-peacefully this morning.  It was almost nightmare-ish as I saw him in my dreams, knowing that it wasn't real and wasn't right.

It's funny because I am not necessarily holding on to anything but at the same time, I miss the friendship that I had with him, his companionship.  After all, that was my intent when I initially met him over two years ago, a friends.

I just took my medicine.  I realized that my lack of not taking it this morning and waiting this late was starting to mess with my head.  I am trying my best and the good thing is I have something to do today.  It'll keep me pre-occupied.

I need to remember I have some action items that I need to work on and get working on it.  I think this weekend has been good for me and allowed me the opportunity to know what I am and am not ready for.

Saturday, September 27, 2014

Not Ready

So my emotions have been back and forth.  I find reassurance at times, reading different articles in reference to relationships and what not.  This morning I read one that helped a little and I feel like sharing may be good for me.

9 Red Flags That Show He's Not Ready For You

I am unsure if these red flags were there before June (they may have been but I was too in love to notice) but I feel that they were ever present now.  At times, I feel like maybe it's just how he does things, he does them differently from me but there are some stand alone's on this list that make me feel otherwise.

In my opinion, the ones that apply to him: everything but 2.  He knows what his mission is and he is passionate about his goals....I just was never one of them.

Though reading this makes me sad, I know it'll be okay.

(Just time to get my pills from my car before too long!)

I miss him...

After six weeks of spending the weekends with him and doing stuff together, tonight was a tough night for me.  I missed him...a lot.  More than I expected.

I am going to need to find that balance...somehow.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Side Effects

Today has been a rough day.  After lowering my dosage, I hoped I would feel okay.  I took another 50mg when I was at work and it made me feel awful.  I was drowsy all day, dealing with an intense headache and as the afternoon went on, felt nauseated. I was so out of it where I thought I had misplaced my keys and went wildly looking for them. They were where they should be...

I came home tired, crashed and still feel off.  I think I wont take another 50mg till tomorrow and hope for the best.  At some point, I am hoping it'll start feeling better...

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Getting a little help

So I've been experiencing some pain again in my abdominal region, more than I have experienced in a while and being that it has been 10 weeks post-op, it's been kind of unexpected for me.  I feel it is partially a physical manifestation of what I am going through emotionally since I've been doing a lot better emotionally this time.

I took my painkillers last night, the first time in a long time and I'm noticing I am feeling it this morning, some minor pain but its been over 4-6 hours so it makes sense.  I also decided to take my anti-depressant, at a lower dosage.  I cut the pill in half since the whole one made me nauseated last time.  It seem to work as I am not feeling bad this time but we'll see if it really makes a difference later.

I have always been NOT big on medication BUT I am worried that there will be an eventual breakdown and that is not acceptable.  This is my preemptive  strike.


Monday, September 22, 2014

Show and Tell ***GRAPHIC PICTURES!!***

So after a little over 2 months, my doctor finally sent the pictures of my fibroids to me.  Though I had seen it that Tuesday, July 15, the gravity of what was removed from my body didn't really register.  (Probably due to the fact I was heavily under the influence of pain killers!)

I find this as an opportunity to share what I went through for those who may go through a similar situation.  In the picture, you will see my TEN fibroids and a close up of the largest one.  The image of the ruler isn't the best but it gives you some reference point.  The smallest one is approximately around half an inch in length.


Feel free to leave questions as I think its important to be informed!

A beginning thought

For once in my life, my unhappiness is going to bring me some relief.  I am not sure how to process it yet but in time, things will be okay.

Thursday, September 04, 2014

Venting

I strongly dislike stupid crap.  Does that make sense?

I hate when criticism makes no sense and it's essentially hurtful towards good people with genuine intent.  I hate people drawing lewd conclusions that are unwarranted based on their ASSumptions!

What I hate more than anything is when my thoughts are basically invalidated due to the fact that the opposing side is management.  Just because you're a higher up does NOT make your opinion hold higher value.  Don't say shit like your words were spun the wrong way.  You said what you said.  You got called out but because you're someone's right hand bitch, you get away with it.

BULL SHIT!!

*sigh*

Makes me wonder where I fit in...