If Fidelity Over-rated?

a friend and i were talking this weekend when she told me about how she 'cheated' on her bf for the first time in over a year and a half's time. (nothing over the top...just made out with some guy...i found out during our conversation that apparently it wasnt the first time) prior to her current bf, according to her, she cheated all the time. . .having a new booty call person every three months for the latter three years of her six year relationship.

our conversation got me really thinking though...is fidelity over-rated?

i've honestly never cheated...well at least i dont think i have! there is the infamous scandal from my junior year in high school when i had a bf and had feelings for another. i started to hang out with the other guy a lot but nothing ever happened until i broke up with my then bf. soo high school but it was drama nonetheless! one of my then friends, also a friend of my then bf, had slapped a scarlet A on me when all that happened. to be honest, i dont think she ever got over it...maybe thats why i didnt get invited to her wedding but he did. im glad to say that he and i are friends today though! =)

i guess i never had the desire to cheat as i've gotten older. i figure, if im not happy, it's over..right? why sit there and hurt not only you but the other party by cheating. it was interesting though as i listened to my friend explain why she did it. essentially, it was a confidence builder. here there was a guy who found her sexy and attractive and was in awe with her and wanted to be there with her. it was new, novel, it made her feel special. it's sad to think that sometimes as young (adult) women, we seek another's (specifically a man's) validation to make us feel special.

i can't sit there and make it look like i wouldnt have been the same in her situation. i know i like attention. i like to be told all those things too but i'm not sure if i would ever jeopardize a relationship, especially if it was a serious relationship, just to feel special for a moment!

MEN...remind your gfs, wives, significant others that they're special to you. no matter how long its been: 1 month, 1 year, 10 years, 25 years, 50 years! we like to be told...it brings us a nice tingley feeling! WOMEN! do the same thing...i'm sure the men like it too...

in the end, it makes me wonder...is it worth it?

i really do believe that we're monogamous creatures, that humans are capable of finding one person to love and be with for the rest of their lives. the question is if you can find them on the first, second, tenth, hundredth try.

love is a wonderful thing. it's just DIFFICULT...difficult to find, to keep and to maintain. the lucky few though...they make it look easy...i'm envious of those people.

maybe one day, i'll be envious of myself...